We are all still coming to terms with this new way of being. Stay at home is the very clear message. But what to do if staying at home is not necessarily an easy thing to do? Are you used to being busy and finding the transition to being at home with people really difficult? Maybe your relationships were strained before this, perhaps you are living in a small space, feeling claustrophobic, anxious and trapped? (There is information for anxiety and panic attacks Here)
We all need to find ways to adapt to lockdown and managing relationships within the home could be crucial.
If you can, be clear about your expectations, don’t be scared to ask for space. Have a clear idea about what time alone looks like for you. It is important to communicate directly and calmly with those you are living with whilst being mindful of their thoughts and feelings too. The people you are living with may have different needs to yours – that’s ok. Don’t feel obliged to be together all the time or to do everything as one. Engaging in separate activities allow us time to relax, be ourselves and miss the ones we are living with.
Expressing yourself and your emotions is key to healthy emotional wellbeing.
Although emotional regulation is important, please don’t be afraid to argue! Deal with things as they happen, small disagreements can be managed more easily. Keeping things in may lead to conflict later and it is more likely to turn into a bigger difficulty which could threaten relationships at deeper level.
A whole “household” approach may be useful – we are all in this together, let’s work as a team. Talk about what it is like for you.
The lockdown is one experience, in which we are all engaged but try to have an understanding of each other’s experience within that.
Ensuring Your Wellbeing
Look after yourself! This isn’t a sign of selfishness but an integral part of maintaining your emotional wellbeing. If you can’t look after yourself you wont be in a position to support those around you.
If you are experiencing difficulties whilst at home, there is support available:-
Respect – Men’s Advice Line 0808 801 0327 Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Freephone 24 Hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline 0808 200 247
You can also speak to me here at Salford Counselling. While I cannot offer face to face counselling sessions at this time I can still support you with telephone and remote video sessions via Zoom, Skype, Facetime etc. I am a counsellor based in Manchester so please feel free to contact me to discuss your options.